Now as many of you know I just had the privilege of participating in my first birthing photoshoot and I must say it was the most eye-opening emotional experience of my life. Seeing the mother in such pain, watching the father wait with helplessness patience, hearing the proud grandmother calling family members to share the news “He is coming soon, he is coming soon!!”. The emotions going from happy to being scared back to happy, from extreme frustration to complete exhaustion. It is a precious moment that is an experience not a lot of women will have not only as spectators, but as actual soon-to-be mothers.
Science and technology has done great things in this age and time by given women choices and we should all be grateful for that. Women have the choice to have either a C-section or have a natural birth. Most mother’s I have known have done it naturally, but a few I know have chosen to go with the C-section. Either way, they all were given beautiful children. It shouldn’t matter how they came into the world, just that they did.
Now even though we are only seeing part of this conversation, as a professional photographer she never should have gone this route by degrading a mothers’ choice in her birthing process. The ways we choose (or not choose...sometimes babies don't want to come the way you plan) to have our children should never be shamed. That is the beauty of choice, it’s for that mother and her alone to do to her body as she deems fit and personally should be the last moment any women should ever be shamed for.
As photographers, we are not supposed to be here to judge. We are supposed to be that invisible support system to capture those intimate emotional moments that happen for a second and frame them for a lifetime.
Now I also know there are some situations where a photographer doesn't want to, or doesn't feel comfortable taking certain photos. Which again, brings us back to the beauty of choice. If she did not want to take C-section photos she could have simply decline. Even if she might have thought the client to be getting hostel, she should have taken the higher road and politely decline for personal choice and leave it at that.
I don't know if birthing photography will ever be my thing but I am so thankful for the experience and wouldn't mind trying it againe choose (or not choose...sometimes babies don't want to come the way you plan) to have our children. As a photographer, we are not suppose to be here to judge. We are supposed to be that invisible support system to capture those intimate emotional moments that happen for a second & frame it for a lifetime. Now I also know there are some situations where a photographer doesn't want to, or doesn't feel comfortable taking certain photos. But as a professional, even when you think the client is getting hostel, you take the higher road & politely decline.
In the meantime, love life, love your body, love you!
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